Love. A funny, tricky, complicated, and wonderful thing. With love comes strings, expectations, standards, and stories of our past experiences. With love we hope for connection, intimacy, appreciation, inclusion, vulnerability, and wholeness.
Growing up, I had an unhealthy idea of love. After experiencing sexual abuse, my parent’s divorce, and several codependent and unhealthy relationships, it isn’t any wonder why. My definition of love and how I viewed it, continued to attract the same type of love. A love where I thought someone completed me, I thought someone else made my happy, and I thought that love meant sacrificing myself and my happiness for another person. I waited for my knight in shining armor and always left my hair long enough to be saved. I lived everyone else’s expectations of me because I thought that in order to be loved, I had to be perfect.
I’ve never been happier to admit…I WAS WRONG.
I decided to let curiosity drive me and follow my questions of love: what is love? Is there such thing as unconditional love? And, how do you make love stay?
These questions brought me to my independent research and showed me a whole new side of life. Through interviews, reading, and discovery, I found the happiest, most successful people in life, love, and happiness all had a few things in common; they knew they were whole and complete on their own. They knew they had to fill their cup up first so they could fill other’s. They knew to love themselves, first and that was the fullness and wholeness of life. Through loving themselves and filling their needs, they attracted the most loving, amazing relationships and opportunities.
My mind was blown. Something that seemed so simple and straight forward was something I had never thought of. So, through love, I found self-love and that journey has been the game changer.
Now, I’m here to share what I’ve learned. I’m showing up to tell you my why and give you my how.
Everyone is deserving of love and belonging. Everyone has a right to healthy, loving relationships and an environment where they flourish and thrive. Everyone has the right to a full heart and the strength to feel and be exactly where they are. I want everyone to know the freedom of fulfilling their own needs, living their values, and having an unwavering trust in themselves.
It doesn’t mean it is easy. It’s the hardest thing you will ever do. And, it’s the most important thing you will do. We can’t change the world until we change our internal world.
The more I learn in life, the more I realize I don’t know. The universe is filled with wonder and miracles. And yet, I have learned some things I consider to be true:
- Everything I need is inside of me waiting to be discovered.
- I don’t need saving or fixing.
- I am worthy of love and belonging.
- I am more capable than I will every know.
- I am enough and I matter.
And, so do you.
During this month of self-love, it is an intensive journey into yourself. You will walk away with tips, tools, and exercises to develop your relationship to self. It’s vulnerable and scary AND WORTH IT. We can only give what we are, so look deep inside and see what you’re ready for. What do you stand for? What do you want out of life? What makes life worth living to you? Let’s bring it out.
You are a masterpiece. Every color, stroke, and detail is perfectly placed and fills its purpose of wholeness. All of the colors, light and dark, create that beautiful masterpiece of you. It’s time to showcase it.
Peace, Love, Amity,