Today, I decided it was time to take the morning off. It was time to treat myself to alone time and do something that makes my soul feel rested. The past few months have been chaotic and stressful. I have moved four times since October and still don’t have a place where I call home. It has taken a toll on my physical health, as well as, my emotional well-being.
While it has been chaotic and stressful, I have realized the importance of alone time and finding out what makes me happy. In high school, I had a soccer coach and mentor who often asked me, “Jillie, what are you doing for you?” Up until I started this project, I had a hard time answering that question. In fact, I still do. I always felt guilty when I did something that didn’t benefit my GPA, my team, my resume, or helping others. I never felt like I was worthy of something that just simply made me feel happy and at peace. And, honestly, it still is hard for me. So, I am going to start recording the things I do for myself each week and I urge you to practice this too.
- I finished my vision board
- I have watched an inspirational TEDxWomen talk every day
- I got a massage
- Shopped at Whole Foods
- Took a nap
- Wrote in my journal
So, if you are having trouble finding what makes you happy, begin writing down things during your week you enjoy and you may begin to see a pattern. Recognizing what makes you feel happy and good is important for your well-being. This is a part of loving yourself. To love yourself is to take care of yourself, to satisfy your needs, to take time to nurture you. You are worthy of this and deserve this.
Too many times we rely on other people to take care of us or to satisfy our needs, but it is not another person’s responsibility; not our spouse, our children, our parents or siblings. This is our individual responsibility and I am giving us permission right now to take the time we need. It is okay.
So, what will you do for yourself this week? How will you begin to nurture your relationship with yourself? This is all part of the self-love journey and it is beautiful. Be patient with yourself and schedule time for you. This time is just as important as the dinner with your friend, or the meeting that needs to be scheduled. And, at the end of the day, ask yourself, “Why was today beautiful?”